My brother and SIL (yes, THAT brother and SIL) recently announced that they're expecting another baby. It was nice to greet that news with genuine happiness and not a months-long meltdown, I have to say.
Sometimes little things still nag at me. On Father's Day when they made their announcement at dinner with my dad and his family, we got in a discussion of all the babies born recently and how they've all been girls. We have Eleanor; my brother and SIL have Emma; my stepbrother and his wife have a two-year-old daughter. My dad said something like, "Well V [a cousin] has two boys, but she's the only one so far."
I said, "Well, we had a boy."
Silence.
It felt like it went on forever, but it was probably only a couple of seconds; then my dad recovered himself and said, "That's right, you did." And the conversation moved on. But that kind of sucked. I don't go through every day thinking about Joseph constantly any more, and I don't expect anyone else to, either, but I had the sense my dad had completely forgotten.
3 Comments:
Congrats on being an aunt again...and I am so sorry about the situation with your dad. I think you definitely did the right thing by bring Joseph up and reminding them that he is real.
I am glad you are blogging again! I've missed your writing!
I'm glad that you said it :)
Sometimes we just have to be their advocates here.
I agree with Laura. Sometimes we have to be their voice because they aren't here to speak for themselves.
~Carole
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